As a dad who’s also a musician, I perceive links between these two facets of who I am. I’ve been learning as an entertainer the importance of creating moments onstage, not just playing a bunch of songs. These moments touch on an emotion, a sense of humor, a shared experience among everyone (big and small) in the audience that they will remember after seeing the show.
This line of thought was largely something I learned from Tom Jackson’s Onstage Success program about how to make shows that matter to an audience. Tom’s the one who worked with Taylor Swift, Jars of Clay and numerous other bands to craft great moments from the stage. He credits artists like Bruce Springsteen and U2 with having an expert understanding of creating moments in a show.
Great Family Moments Make Great Family Memories
It struck me how much this also applies to parenting. Our time as a parent to young children is limited and when the kids get bigger, we share a memory in common with our kids of the family experience. As parents, what kinds of moments can we create? Silly moments, serious moments, “lightbulb” moments of breakthroughs in learning, moments of giving back to the community?
Are your memories of special family moments touched best by looking at pictures you took some time ago? Thinking about a special day you enjoyed together? Talking about a common memory at the dinner table? What is it about your strongest, clearest memories that set them apart from the less memorable moments?
I hope these thoughts help you keep your family connections strong and vibrant. It can be hard among all the digital distractions we live with (it’s often hard for me), our careers and running a household to make time to make memories, but so rewarding any time you can break out of your bubble and fully engage in this beautiful process.
The Music and Family Memory Connection
I started by mentioning a connection between making moments onstage and making moments as a parent. When you take kids to a live concert, especially one of my shows, you’re making family memories. Moments of eye contact between performer and each member of the audience, moments of audience participation, sharing a laugh between parent and child over a silly lyric, these are all moments my band and I create in order to fill your family up with experiences and memories. And then a cool thing happens — you all in the audience become part of my family’s memories too!
Let’s make some wonderful memories together that we can talk with our future grown-up kids about: Visit my tour calendar for info on my upcoming shows, both in-person and live, online concerts you can experience from anywhere in the world!
I’d love to hear your parenting thoughts based on this piece I shared. We’re all on this parenting journey together; I think our conversation can help us all keep up the good work! Please comment below.